Have you read the stories online about the types of moms you’ll meet on your child’s first day of school? There’s the sporty mom, the organized mom, the all-business mom, the crunchy mom and all of us perfectly imperfect moms in between. We hate stereotypes. They’re rarely spot on and do much more to divide us then bring us together. Is it okay to be a little bit of everything mom? Can we recycle and use coconut oil while still occasionally throwing back some GMO chicken nuggets (gasp!!). Yes. Yes, we say. You’re a modern day mom and it’s more than okay to admit that you’re not “perfect” – whatever that is anyway!
Products Used (and not Used) by the Modern Day Mom
If you’re a smart mom, which we know you are, then you likely look up recipes and learn about the best products to use for you and your baby. The recent lawsuit against Johnson & Johnson baby powder sure shook the parenting community. Who didn’t grow up learning that baby powder was a totally normal product? Still, not everything you use is 100% organic. You might admire your friend’s use of fancy, reusable diapers in amazing patterns….but in all reality, you’re just too busy (and just don’t want to deal with it). And that’s totally okay. Plus, parenting isn’t one size fits all. You really have to do what works best for you and your family so that you have more happy smiles than tears. That’s really what it’s all about. (MI Tip: Use Amazon Pantry to save on household items and the time it takes to go to the store.)
Physical Activity (Realistic Goals!!)
If you can squeeze in 30 minutes of exercise a week, kudos. Three times a week? Bravo!! Seriously. Do not compare yourself to other parents who are out there every day. Exercising every day, or even five times a week is hard. Anyone who tells you otherwise is lying. So, congratulate yourself for the amount of activity you are getting and keep pushing for more. If you aren’t quite ready for an inverted lotus pose like some of your friends, don’t stress. However, do consider switching up your workouts (try something new!). And, take a friend. (And, hire a nanny.) Your health is so important. Keeping healthy is one of the best things you can do for your baby too. It keeps your immune system strong and keeps you mentally sharp. Go on, get out there! (MI Tip: Hire a postpartum doula so you can get in a workout here and there, plus laundry and sleep support.)
Career (And Stress)
If you’re like many moms, you have a full-time career in addition to being a full-time mama. You might not be a stay at home mom (or will be transitioning back to work soon), but you have your hands completely full. The stress can be overwhelming at times. The most important thing is to continue to breathe (seems easier than it is!). And remember how strong you are to have gotten to where you stand today. Next, get yourself some sleep. You know you need it. If you haven’t considered a night nanny, do it now. You won’t regret it and if you do, you don’t need to reschedule. It’s always worth a try to see if having a good night of sleep while a trusted night nanny soothes your child is worth it to you. For the busiest of moms, it can be a game changer. (MI Tip: Schedule a night nanny ahead of time for smooth nights into powerful days.)
Asking For Help
Looked at Pinterest lately? Everyone seems to be the DIY’er of the century. How do they do it all? Truth is, they don’t! It takes a lot of time to do things yourself. First you need to learn how, then you need to perfect it. For so many parents, time is just simply not a luxury that we have. What free time we do have, all we want to do is spend it with our family’s usually. Being able to free up your time as a new parent can be such a crucial move. Can you hire someone to shovel the driveway next time it snows? Maybe once a month, you can schedule a laundry service to pick up and drop off freshly folded clothes. Dog walker? And, what about a grocery drop-off service for the first little bit?
Of course, you can tell by now we’re partial to hiring nannies to help with your new little one, but there are all sorts of other affordable ways to save yourself some time and stress during this life transition. Take care of yourself mama and don’t be afraid to ask for help. It’s only the “modern day mom” who does things ALL by herself these days. It used to be so natural to have plenty of hands helping a new mother. You are Wonder Woman, but you can hang up your cape here and there too to get your nails done. (You deserve it!)