As first time parents, my wife and I didn’t really know what to expect. We were used to a selfish, carefree lifestyle and we didn’t expect how quickly our life would be turned upside down. My wife and I both had good jobs and enjoyed working hard and playing harder and I never realized how much we liked to sleep until our first child arrived. And, little did I know that soon enough I would be thinking about hiring a marriage counselor (until a friend told me about something better).
At first we were overwhelmed with all the family and friends showing up to the hospital with flowers, clothes and toys. The nurses helped take care of the baby and my wife and I looked at each other and thought with all this support, we got this, it will be no problem. We came home the first day with our new baby excited and ready to take on this new chapter in our lives. The first week flew by and the trash can was filled with diapers and our new baby seemed to start becoming old news amongst our friends and family as they slowly began to fade away. As week two rolled around I saw the fearful look in my wife’s eyes as she started to realize that I needed to go back to work and she would now be on her own. Honestly, I felt a sense of relief heading back to the office and running away from my home which was was once my sanctuary. I know you’re supposed to leave no man behind but I ran out the door never looking back at my poor wife who seemed lost and afraid. Let the new chapter begin!
The Reality of Sleep Deprivation
As the first month passed we were exhausted and alone. There was nobody around to take out our frustration and fatigue on except each other and our relationship started to feel the wrath of exhaustion and stress. Inside I knew she was at home working around the clock with the baby but I was going to work and bringing home the bacon. In the evening we were both overwhelmed and when we heard the baby cry in the middle of the night we would stare at each other. In my head I was expecting her to get up and take care of the baby since I worked all day, that’s only fair right? This is your new job, handle it.
Our relationship took more and more hits as you can clearly see by reading the last few sentences. We were down each other’s throats all the time and things became more and more unbearable for me. For the first time in my work life I would look at the clock and wish it wasn’t time to go home yet. My co-worker approached me and asked if I wanted to grab a drink after work and I jumped all over the opportunity. As we sat at the bar he asked me how I was handling my first child, and I broke down laying out all my dirty laundry. Clearly I needed to get it off my chest.
Better Than a Marriage Counselor
As I talked he just looked at me with a grin and when I finished with my rant he gave me the ‘I’ve been there’ nod, so I asked him how did he do it? What is the secret formula to success? How can I fix this? He smiled and said when he was in my shoes he seeked out and found the baby whisperer. He told me about Maternal Instincts and how they saved not only his sanity but his marriage. The next morning I called Rachelle with Maternal Instincts and that night our savior arrived (which was a surprise for my wife). For the first time in two months we had a decent night sleep and boy oh boy how much we needed it. We woke up the next day rejuvenated like we just spent a week on the beach.
With the help of Maternal Instincts we were able to sleep peacefully, my wife was able to go back to work (which she missed), our marriage was no longer in shambles thankfully and on top of that our baby was sleeping through the night! For the first time in a long time we were back to a routine and we were both so happy with all the support and love our family received from Maternal Instincts. They were lifesavers for sure and a year and a half later my wife and I are ready for baby #2 but this time we called Rachelle to book ahead of time!
Note: This story is written by a REAL (formerly sleep deprived) Dad. If you want to learn more, or see how a night nanny could work for you, click the book link below.